Tuesday, April 27, 2010

A Much Lighter Note

I feel kinda bad about how negative my earlier blog was so I am here to vindicate myself. I started the day off very crummy but since then I have had some silver lining. First, we went to Walmart (on Wade Hampton) and now they carry Earth Balance Vegan and Soy Free butter. WHOOP WHOOP. And for less than three dollars each, I was able to stock up and not feel guilty or break the bank. Which means... I can make lots of cookies, and even better, I CAN EAT THEM! And then I received an email from Emily Allen who is now the Greenville Allergies and Parents writer for The Examiner. She has decided to do a story on our family and even post a link to this blog! This means even more people will become aware of what families like us have to go through and awareness leads to changes!!! Praise GOD!!!! So things are looking up and thanks to everyone for letting me get this stuff off my chest, good or bad.

Oh, and here's a thought-if any of you are having a birthday, holiday, or any other celebration and would like some help with the menu-let me know. I not only can make the goodies, but I can help you come up with menu and make sure your function is a allergy friendly one. Just send me your allergens and what you want and I can do the rest!!! Even though my child won't eat it, I have come up with some pretty amazing good eats :)

I Apologize

First of all, I apologize for the long delay. Truth be told-I have been wallowing in self pity for no good reason. Tanner, my youngest is having trouble learning how to eat properly, so much so that we have to go to occupational therapy to try to get him to be interested in eating. What is so frustrating for me is the fact that eating in general is such a freaking task in my house. I have one child who can't eat because he is allergic to most foods and I have another child who can't eat because he can't figure out how. Why is food such a problem for us? Simple things that others take for granted-like eating-is such a struggle for us. Why? I sure have never had a problem :) In fact, I rather enjoy it, even dream about it sometimes :)

The past weekend I was with a friend and her brother made a comment about how I have made her paranoid about feeding her baby new foods. Due to my experiences, she is shy about feeding her baby certain foods and is very cautious about possible food allergies (better safe than sorry). Well her brother said (in front of a lot of people) "Because of her (pointing to me), my sis is a freak about her child eating anything. And for every one bad experience she (referring to me again) has had, eight others haven't had that problem. So because of her (me) sis is too scared and won't let her child eat anything." Well, at that point I had two options: crawl under the table and scurry away, or laugh it off. Well I opted for the latter but inside I almost started to cry in embarrassment. And not to mention, I kinda let him get to me and make me feel guilty. Then, later on, he made another comment and I had had enough. I blurted out "IMAGINE WATCHING YOUR CHILD STRUGGLE FOR EVERY BREATH AND WONDERING IF HE WAS GONNA MAKE IT THIS TIME AND SEE IF YOU WOULD BE PARANOID! LOOK AT YOUR LITTLE GIRL AND IMAGINE HER ALMOST DIEING 3x NOW". He looked at me and said "wow, I didn't realize it was that serious". It just goes to show the ignorance people have to food allergies.

Another reason why I haven't been blogging is because I've kind of been down about the whole issue. Sometimes I feel really positive about it all and I know God will take these away, but other times, I'm just scared and hate that these are the cards we've been given. Right now, I basically have only one option for a babysitter and that is my sister. All of my family is awesome and very careful but she is the only one who doesn't work and her baby ate a "ty diet" for the first year of his life so she totally gets it. And when I have doctors appointments or anything, I know I can drop Ty off there and not give it a second thought. She is uber clean and the likelihood of protein on toys or furniture is very slim if any. So I am very thankful and appreciative of that option. Well now they have decided to move to the Hendersonville area and part of me (the selfish part) is so upset because I am losing my only other safe haven besides my house. This is what's best for her family and I truly believe that, but of course it will complicate things a little for mine. That goes back to the whole wallowing in self pity I mentioned earlier. This is the point I have to say "God I know you have our best interest at heart also" but its hard to recognize that. Right now I'm just wallowing. And I've realize with Ty, food is such a mixed emotion for me: sometimes I love it because it tastes good, but most of the time I HATE it because it limits our lives so much!

Well, I should probably calm down a little and try to make the next post more positive. After all, if I can't be positive about this, how can I expect Ty to be?

Monday, April 5, 2010


Well I must say-this Easter may have included more work than any other Easter-but it was the least stressful holiday we have had! We had all of my husband's family over the day before Easter and we prepared most of the meal ourselves and had a rule-only Ty-friendly food allowed and it was wonderful. Everyone was so cooperative and it was the first time Chad and I weren't having to watch people like hawks thinking "did they wash their hand? Are they gonna pick up that food they just dropped? Where is Ty? Did he touch that?" etc. etc. We were able to relax and enjoy the get together. And not to mention-Ty had a blast and there were no outbreaks or hospital trips :) YEAH!. We had a delicious meal with ham, chicken, beans, greens, mashed potatoes, brown rice, cresents, fruit (and the list goes on...). I think everyone was ok without mac and cheese and some of the other traditional holiday foods. It just goes to show-you can eat good and keep things safe at the same time. Oh, and of course we had sweets-I made a fun bunny cake and sugar cookies and my mother in law made a wonderful peach crisp.
Then, for church, I made 100+ sugar cookies for all of preschool children to enjoy and although it took over 8 hours-it was so worth it when I saw all of those kids loving the cookies and only my son going "No Fank You, I allerskic", and daddy whispering "no you aren't Ty, and mommy worked hard on these now just take one!" LOL. If only Ty enjoyed these half as much as I do. But at least I knew he was safe and he had the opportunity to eat like the rest of them.
Here is the recipes for these little pieces of Heaven. Caution-HIGHLY ADDICTIVE!

3/4 cup Earth Balance Dairy Free/Soy Free butter
1 cup sugar
1 tsp vanilla
2 egg substitute (6 tbs water mixed w/ 2tbs milled flaxseed)
2 1/2 cups sifted Self-rising flour

Once dough is made-freeze for 1-2 hours. Roll out on parchment paper and cut into desired shapes. Bake on parchment paper at 350 for 8-10 minutes. let cool completely before adding the icing.

3 tbs Earth Balance Dairy Free/Soy Free butter
1 1/2 cups 10x powedered sugar (or more if needed)
1/2 tsp. vanilla
rice milk-enough to add for consistency
food coloring (optional)

Like I said-we had a great Easter because Ty was safe and we are so thankful for such wonderful, watchful, and cooperative family who helped make this such a great holiday. And thank you to everyone reading this blog-it truly means so much to us and together I know we can make this a safer place for all children w/ food allergies.